Okay so in Xmas day the VAG specialist arrived, cleared all the faults created by trying to hard reset the system and at the same time boost charged the battery for just over two hours.
Thankfully, We got it going

I did 2x 50mile trips within 24hrs which "self charges" the 12v some more - I'm now also in possession of a trickle charger which I'll use tomorrow to make sure it's fully charged.
If it discharges again after that it's back to dealer I go.
I was told the 12v doesn't charge from a 3pin 13amp/3kw charger, only 7kw upwards will top up the 12v whilst charging the HV battery.
Also as I received the car whilst on annual leave I'd only driven 2-3mile journeys at any time, which also contributed to a low 12v recharge rate "on the go".
I get my ohme wall charger mid January, so this should be a short term problem. I'm glad that I now have my own trickle charger and (from this experience) the knowledge to know it's better to have it, just in case the 12v issue re-occurs.
It's a deeply disappointing event, but the learning journey quite valuable and hopefully this also helps someone else unlucky enough to find themselves in a similar position at some point.